Divorce Process Facilitation and Design – Collaborative and Litigious Divorce
Separation and divorce are emotionally demanding situations requiring the patience of even the healthiest among us. Life altering decisions are made under the trying of circumstances. For this reason, it makes absolute sense and adds considerable value to the expense of divorce, to have a competent, experienced and specifically trained mental health professional at your side from the very beginning of this process. It is fool hardy to think you can save money by not having a divorce coach in from the beginning of your divorce proceedings. Although each of you may arrive at the process with good intentions to settle amicably, finding yourself in the quagmire of legal details sets off a tsunami of unexpected emotional triggers. Trust and confidence in the other person may come into considerable doubt in the middle of this process. For this reason, bringing in a divorce coach to ‘save the day’ is the worse use of your time and money. As an example of a poor investment, you never buy into the stock market when prices are high rather, you’d be wisely advised to consider averaging your monthly contributions.
Whether I am your first contact as you consider divorce options, a referral from an attorney working with your case, or part of an interdisciplinary team of collaborative practitioners, my training and expertise can help to ensure the best possible outcome for you and your family.
As a Collaborative Professional Neutral Divorce Coach or Child Specialist, I work side by side with collaboratively trained family law attorneys. I understand the legal aspects of divorce and the emotional roller coaster of uncoupling. The unique role of the specialist is different from that of therapist. As a divorce coach, I hold steady your feelings, without delving into their root causes, keeping the well-being of the entire family as the primary goal with a neutral stance. Coaches will teach, exhort, direct and model in a way more actively engaged than would a therapist. Although as a coach I will help you to identify and articulate your feelings, they will be connected to current triggers requiring self-control and the ability to think more rationally and less emotionally under trying circumstances.
As a coach and seasoned therapist with mediation skills, it is not uncommon for you to continue your individual work with your therapist as I work with you as your divorce coach or, your children’s specialist. I cannot provide both services to you simultaneously as they are distinct from one another. As a neutral facilitator working with you as a divorce coach or child specialist, my ethical standards and licensing specifics protect you as a consumer, no matter how fond you may be toward me or the work we did together in the past. I will, however, work with you through the divorce process and after with issues related to your divorce transitions. In such cases of ethical conflict, I will be happy to offer you a referral.
Additionally, insurance coverage only applies when a medical diagnosis is assigned. Should we be working together in therapy, insurance coverage may apply. It is your responsibility to confirm your insurance coverage and deal with all insurance matters during and after our work together. Divorce coaching and Child Specialist roles, in the context of divorce, are skills separate from divorce therapy and are not a covered expense.
Although you may choose the litigious divorce, for solid reasons and concerns, my services as a coach would serve you equally as well. Keep in mind that litigious divorce, coupled with parenting issues, have damaging effects for generations to come. Children of divorce as adult survivors of divorce, face their own issues as they transverse relationship waters.
At your convenience visit www.collaborativepractice.com and review Standards for Collaborative Practitioners.
You can view my Divorce Packages and contact me for more information.